Skylar's Blog & Podcast

Do you have any weird ticks or quirks you do in front of people but you don't even realize you're doing them. I have a few, and one of those is clicking pens. I will sometimes click a pen for 30 to 45 minutes straight before I realize I'm really loud or someone else helps me realize how annoying I am being. There is something we all have a habit of doing with people that I would say we are completely unaware of most of the time. When we meet someone new and we like hanging out with them we tend to try to find ways to spend more time with them. This process continues, but while we are spending more and more time with them there is an underlying process that is going on. While we get to know this guy or girl we are trying to figure something out about them...can you figure out what that one thing is?...We're trying to find the answer to this question: can I trust this person? Now, does everybody do this? No! However, some of us will subconsciously feel around a new friend and see if they are trustworthy. This is a natural process, it does not make you paranoid, it does not make you weird; in fact, I think this is a healthy process. Why? Because we live in a fallen world, and not everyone is going to be seeking out the best for us. Does this mean we put every person we meet through a rigid application process and background check? No, it just means you are wise with who you share your life with. Now, does this mean the people you put your trust in will never disappoint or hurt you? Definitely not. Like I said, we live in a fallen world, and even the solid Christian people in our lives suffer from the same fallenness. Because of this they will disappoint and hurt you, too. However, the difference (and this is what you want in a friend) with these friends is they will seek you out and make sure to apologize and reconcile with you.